We had the 2nd counseling session the other day. You've been on your best behavior. You've been acting shocked by anything that I say such as "You never want to spend time with the family. As soon as you get home you try to leave" - (Of course I had to word in in a "non-threatening" way, you know take out as many "you's" as possible and change them to "I feel") - so your response to all of that?
What!? (innocent shock) I don't understand why you think that? I only do that to try and make your life easier! Like taking out the trash and grocery shopping.
And me because I was so caught off guard by his innocent shock act. Couldn't remember to bring up the fact that no - what I really mean is how he is always trying to run to go by himself something at the mall.
I've been kicking myself ever since about not having that information to provide at the time I needed it. I'm sure I looked like a needy, controling idiot. Not next time - I had the hope that the counselor having interviewed us separately would say "ok this is what I think you 2 need!" she didnt really do that (until we told her we wanted to do that) so I'm going to prepare a list of things with examples that we can talk about - since we are paying $80 an hour for things that we should be able to talk about in the comfort of our own home.
That is if YOU could communicate!
So sum of - not hopeful - feeling stuck - regretting my marriage.
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