Done

My neck is stiff. It's stiff and my back hurts because you grabbed me by my ponytail tonight and jerked me up and and down until you forced me to the ground. I didn't decide to grow my hair out so that I could give you something to hold on to as you yell and intimidate me. I wanted to grow it out so that I could be pretty for you. But I am not pretty to you am I?

Anytime I question you - you tell me I'm controlling. You tried to spin me some yarn today about not being able to remember the login to the checking account so that you needed to get your own checking account - so that you could pay your credit cards of with it - faster. One you told me that I could not have access to. Then you made the comment that you paid 95% of your paycheck to your family, you should be able to do whatever you wish with the remaining 5. No questions asked - no telling me what you did with it.

That's fine so I get to have the same thing, right? ....NO!

Anger - Yelling - "Dont talk to me!"

Later in the day MORE yelling when I asked what you took $300 for and why you password protected your phone -

She is in town isnt she? I didn't say that outloud but that's what all signs are pointing to.

Pulling my hair, hitting my head on the wall, lock me out...."the kids are watching! STOP!"...."I DONT CARE!"

Now you are in jail. You might be out now. I dont know. You can't contact me until Weds afternoon. You cant come back to this house until Weds afternoon.

12 years - GONE! Actually it stopped at 11 years for me. I'm sure it's ALL my fault. I'm sure some of it really is but not that which you blame on me.

You made your own choices...you have your agency. I'm not going to live like this anymore. I don't want to be your wife anymore.